Why It's Not All About The One

When Britney Spears took part in James Corden’s Carpool Karaoke, something struck me. She mentioned how she didn’t believe in happy ever after or marriage. It’s a sad statement but also one in this day and age, away from the Disney fantasy of meeting your prince, that’s relatable.


 

When I was growing up, my first memory of what I thought love was when I was around 7 or 8. I’d weirdly got my parents to buy me a kids wedding dress complete with veil because I wanted to marry a boy in my village. It didn’t happen. Heartbreaking. But since then and up until present day, I’ve fallen for a handful of people. Some could see it as sad that none of those were ‘the one’ but I don’t. I feel so blinking lucky to have felt something for so many people. It’s a rush, it’s exciting, it’s fun and your heart grows by each and every experience. Forget shoulda woulda couldas, if it was meant to work out, it would have done, or you would have fought harder to keep it.


Society builds up 'the one' to a pedestal level. Tie that in with #boydidgood and so many uses of the word ‘bae’ and it can send you under. Be with ‘bae’ for the right reasons, like he remembers just how you like your tea or leaves cute notes on your pillow. Not because you’re so set on finding the one, you’re not complete without it.


It’s the same concept as your ‘best day ever.’ Hopefully by a certain age, you won’t have just the one. I know I don’t. I could go on and on and on about the best days of my life so far. And I hope they never stop. I hope I’ll never get to a point where it is just one day, but a catalogue of magical 24 hours. As for love, don’t limit yourself to ‘the one’ or the idea of it. If you’ve found it, great. If you’re looking for it, great. But not everyone is meant to be with one person for the rest of their life, and the option of that is okay too.


And whilst you’re in between romantic relations, all of the break ups and make ups, remember love isn’t just found in your other half. It’s in the 5am sunrises, the banter at work and cooking your favourite brunch at the weekend. It’s the stories you’ll have ‘to tell the kids’, dancing ’til dawn with your best friends and travelling this beautiful earth. And most importantly, it’s in loving yourself, your own company and falling in love again because you’re ready, and not because you’re lonely.